I have a theory about soulmates. I do think they exist, but I’m not sure how common they really are. I think that God has created someone who is absolutely perfect for each person (whether or not you believe in God or not). I think that every human being has his or her one other half. But, I also know that human being are prone to making mistakes.
I think that soulmates don’t usually end up together (maybe 50% of the time), for a number of different reasons. Maybe your soulmate was born on another continent or in a different country (I know that seems terribly unfair, but thus is life), or maybe they were in a tragic accident and died, or they got married before you even had a chance to meet them (cough*Zac/Taylor Hanson*cough). But, why would your soulmate marry someone else if it was “meant to be?” Humans don’t always understand true love. We think we love someone, but often time it’s just a type of infatuation. Or maybe it really is love, but not a soulmate love. But because they didn’t know that their soulmate was out there, they didn’t know they could love anyone else anymore (does that make sense?). Or maybe it was some kind of mistake (that’s a bit harsh, but I can’t think of a less harsh word to get the same point across).
But then the question is: what do you do if your soulmate marries someone else before they even meet you? Or what if you marry someone else before you meet your soulmate? Then is that other person doomed to live alone? I don’t think so. I think that there are, for lack of a better word, back-ups. God has created this perfect person for you out there, and in His perfect plan you would end up with them. But, since we only see in part, we can’t see that plan and often time we miss steps and miss turns along the way. And yes, we usually end up in the right destination, but what if we were suppose to meet our soulmate at one of those turns that we skipped?
That is where the back-up comes in. God knows good and well that we make mistakes, and He understands that, and forgives us of that. So, He created a back-up. A back-up is someone that you can be happy with. They are not the person who was specifically created for you, but they were created with you in mind, because you were always a potential for them. God knew from the beginning that based on free will that that person could end up with you.
And I don’t think you will even know that you are with a back-up. Sometimes, in certain circumstances, when things just become too clear, one might find out that they aren’t with their soulmate. But in most cases you won’t even know. Because it’s that case of what you don’t know can’t hurt you. If you don’t know that you’re not with your soulmate you won’t know what you could potentially be missing.
I know that it’s all a bit confusing and a bit odd, plus I’m not the most eloquent person. But that is my theory. I think that soulmates are real, and that everyone has one, but more often than not, people do not end up with their soulmate. They end up with a back-up, which makes they just as happy because they don’t know what they’re missing.