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Duck, duck, duck, duck….goose

I am just as tired as you are about hearing about Phil Robertson. I’m not even sure why we are talking about him, to be honest. An individual’s beliefs should not even be a talking point these days. But yet, here we are in the end of 2013 STILL discussing how WE think WE are right. No matter what side you are on, you think you’re right. Which I guess is human nature…if you’re five-years old.

Here is the only problem with everything that is going on with Mr. Phil Robertson and Duck Dynasty, and it has absolutely nothing to do with what he says, or the fact that he was banned from his very popular show. It has everything to do with our views on equality. Equality means that everyone has the right to do and say whatever they feel without fear of persecution. And the fact that this is a front page, top-tier news story proves just how skewed the public’s view of equality is these days.

For the record, before you judge me and stick me off to the side, and think I am some kind of hater or angry person, I just want to say that I am actually in support of same-sex relationships. Don’t misunderstand me, it’s not that I encourage it, but I think who an individual loves is none of my business. Who they love does not affect me in any way, shape, or form, so why should I try to dictate it or be offended by it? You know what offends me more than same-sex marriage? The fact that Kim Kardashian can get married for 72 days and nobody bats an eyelash at it. That is more offensive to my future marriage than Ellen and Portia being married.

If they love them, they love them and that is all there is to it. SIDE NOTE: Lots of homosexual people are actually a whole lot better at the love game than lots heterosexual people, because it’s so much more work for them than it is for heterosexuals. When you are homosexual, you have to fight to love who you love, which I think is probably a bonding factor. But when you are heterosexual, people become disposable because it’s just so darn easy.

The real problem here is that he is being criticized and condemned of hate because he expressed an opinion. It’s not that he was kicked off the show, because as a company A&E has every right to kick him off if he breached his contract or they don’t approve of something he says or does. Since A&E is not the government (I’m pretty sure), it has absolutely nothing to do with his First Amendment right. His job with A&E was an elected privilege, not a right. The problem is that having a belief or voicing a belief should not be something that is even written in a contract, or be something that can be approved or disapproved of, it should just exist.

Just as liberals are given the right to express their opinion that they agree with same-sex partnership, and they expect to be accepted, Phil Robertson has every right to disagree with them, and expect his opinion be accepted.

As a whole, the LGBT community preaches tolerance, which is a good thing. The issue that arises is that tolerance is preached, but not practiced. The LGBT community wants every one to be tolerant of their views on life and love, but they are often times intolerant of anyone who disagrees with them or has different views than them. (And I do’t mean to call them out specifically, but that is where the subject matter is at today.) Which is not okay. If you preach tolerance, you must also practice tolerance, which is putting up with stuff you don’t agree with and not crying hate every time someone says something that offends you.

Example: If you know me at all, you know that I am a little bit in love with Justin Timberlake. Okay, a “little bit” is probably a bit of a lie. I straight up adore JT. But, on his new album in the song Cabaret he has a line where he says “got you sayin’ Jesus so much it’s like we’re laying in a manger.” Um, as a Christian that is INCREDIBLY offensive to me. But do you hear me (or Christians everywhere) crying hate against JT because he is mocking Christianity? No. I either a.) ignore it, or b.) skip the song. (Just so we are all clear, this is NOT me hating on JT, I love him and I will probably never speak to you again if you try to pin JT hate on me.)

Just take a minute to think about it. Look at it from the point of, if someone on a really popular reality show revealed that they were homosexual and was then suspended indefinitely for that reason only, not because they went on a wild rant and for real slandered hate everywhere, or were caught executing heterosexual people, but they were suspended solely because they believed in homosexuality, that would be considered discrimination and people would be up-in-arms about it. Essentially this is the exact same situation, only opposite. Phil Robertson is being discriminated against because of his beliefs, and that is not okay. Discrimination is never okay, not matter the subject matter: race, sexual-orientation, religious beliefs. Doesn’t matter, not okay.

We’ve all come too far with equality to let these little things tear down everything that has been built up. I think as a whole the human race probably needs to develop some thicker skin. People are always going to say things that you find hurtful or offensive, just learn to roll with it. Also, while we’re at it, maybe we can also learn some compassion?

Here’s the big kicker,the thing that I can’t seem to wrap my head around…there are so many different channels to watch, magazines to read, and music to listen, that it just seems crazy to me that we can spend so much time arguing over something so easily avoided. If you don’t like what you see on TV, change the channel. If you don’t like what you’re reading in a magazine, put it down. If you don’t like what you’re hearing, skip the song. It sounds pretty basic and easy to me.

You cannot fight hate and discrimination with hate and discrimination.

If you want tolerance, then practice tolerance.

If you want equality, then practice equality. 

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Day 26: Waiting on the world to change (what popular notion do you think your country has most wrong)

I think America gets a lot of things wrong. In fact, I sometimes think we gets more things wrong than we get right.

We get the concept of beauty wrong. We get the concept of love and marriage wrong. We often get the concept of freedom wrong.

I’m not sure if this counts as a popular notion, but it’s something that most people in America do that I think is wrong. Fighting hate with hate. I feel like using the term hate is a bit extreme, but that’s the term I’m going use. People only seem to believe in freedom when it benefits them.

Listen, you are not going to change people by telling them that their beliefs are stupid and wrong and yours are right. “Hey, so-and-so hates us, let’s hate them back. That will fix the problem!” Dumbest concept ever.

The most recent example I can think of that deals with something like this is it that stupid Chic-Fil-A disaster. I get so mad when I think about it. I get angry to the point where I stop making sense and my thoughts are just a jumble of incoherent ramblings. So, sorry in advance.

And, before I even start the ramblings, for the record, I’m not siding with either camp.

You say it’s not right for the owner of Chic-Fil-A to speak out against the LGBT community. But you know what, that is his right as a free American to believe and do whatever he wants. So, you don’t agree with him? Fine, that is your right. If he wants to give money to groups who are against LGBTs, that’s his right. Just as it’s your right to support the LGBT community in whatever way you desire. You think he’s committing a hate crime based on his religious beliefs, so you’re going to boycott him, and bash him..because that’ll teach him to not hate. He’s definitely going to see things your way after that. I feel like the owner of Chic-Fil-A was also the victim of a hate crime. People discriminated against him because of his religious beliefs, which to me is the same as discriminating based on sexual preference. As far as I’m concerned supporters of both parties handled things the wrong way. I’m not taking sides in this whole debacle because I think everyone is wrong for the way they acted.

People who I know to be good, kind, Christians became haters, and not the goofy kind of haters we hear rappers sing about. Proudly plastering things like “GOING TO CHIC-FIL-A TODAY!” on your facebook during such a sensitive time was like blatantly telling the LGBT community “HEY, WE HATE YOU!” While I’m fairly certain that’s not what many people were trying to do, given the circumstances, that’s how it came across. And if it came across that way to me, someone who, as a Christian, is predisposition to side with you, think of how it came off to the actual LGBT community. And the people who were proudly plastering “BOYCOTT CHIC-FIL-A!” were basically saying “HEY, WE HATE YOU!” to the Christian and conservative community.

Because we live in America, everyone is entitled to believe whatever they want. Everyone can have their own opinions, it’s part of the joy of being free. People need to remember that while they’re hating each other because they don’t see eye to eye on every issue. The reason we can have conflicting opinions is because we are free. Would you rather we all be forced to believe the same thing? If you start to take away our freedoms…we start to become communists. And I don’t think anybody wants that. So maybe we should try to get along?

This fighting hate with hate thing also sometimes pops up in other countries, too. In things such as wars. “Hey, they don’t believe what we do. Let’s drop some bombs on them, and then they will see things our way.”  Yes, I will agree that sometimes war is necessary (um, hello Holocaust), but usually it’s probably not.

Fighting hate with hate is never the way to solve problems. It’s never going to work. It’s only going to create more problems and more bad blood.

[P.s. sorry if none of that makes sense. Like my disclaimer from before, I tend to get worked up about some stuff. And then it tends to become a jumbled mess. I’m not even sure if this blog fits with the topic of the day, but it’s going to have to stay because I’m too worked up about this to come up with anything else.]

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